Thank you for this Ask !
Initially I was a lurker on adisc, and also a Dutch-speaking forum. Though, I don’t find forums very useful because I feel that it’s a too ‘sterile’ place void of personality. Maybe these characteristics are a side-effect of trying to make those places safe for its members, i.e. not creepy. I’m not saying that the people on forums are such, I am saying that these are limitations of the platforms.
xD If I sign up under ‘coucherequin’ for a forum or website nowadays and post a message, I get a few PMs asking if I want to chat. Out of respect of my own time, and out of convenience, you can interact with me publicly and privately on tumblr and I’ll answer whatever message you send me in my free time ^^. Though, I simply cannot reply to every “how r u” or every “what u up 2 today” message, as I’d be chatting inane nonsense all the time. I feel that chit-chat is for getting to know a person from a blank canvas. Seeing that I have typed out an insane amount of blog posts already, you can read any or all of my blog posts to gauge where my interests lie. From there, a meaningful, lively and especially fun conversation can follow.
Anyway, so I lurked on forums for a while, then I lurked on tumblr for a while. For reasons that I don’t remember, I started posting messages and pictures to tumblr, which caught on and here we are ^^. Me showing you my diapered bum, and trying to make you happy!