Thank you for your Ask!
What I can distill from your Ask, is that you’re interested in ABDL stories. I find that they’re difficult to write well, without going into unnatural situations. I read stories written by others. Humiliation seems to be a huge trigger… You even suggest it in your ask; public diaper wearing, exposing oneself to a (somewhat) stranger.
What really triggers me when I read stories is unreasonable stuff, illogical events, plot holes, etc. … It doesn’t make sense to me why a crib would become unavailable for 12 months if it’s not picked up today. It’s a story element used to create urgency and it attempts to make that urgency sound logical. But I think that it’s kinda disrespectful of readers to assume that they’re just going to accept the plothole as-is. Readers are smart people, and they want a good realistic story… It can still contain improbable stuff, as long as they’re logical, I think.
In the background, I am writing an ABDL story about two friends who have a strong love interest for one another, where one of them is a full ABDL like me, and the friend being supportive but not fundamentally interested in it. I think that this is the most likely scenario when it comes to relationships where ABDL plays a role yet not both partners are into ABDL.