XD wearing diapers is supposed to be embarrassing?
I’ll answer the question for real. In a lot of abdl stories, embarrassment and public exposure seems to be a recurring theme, even beyond language barriers. By the latter, I mean that you also see it in Japanese abdl comics, and in Dutch abdl stories. So, it’s not exclusive to English abdl stories. That’s reassuring, right? Also outside of abdl, embarrassment seems to be a huge turn-on in certain situations.
As for why embarrassment and abdl would be linked… I can only hypothesize. Embarrassment is a strong emotion that allows us to remember stuff in huge detail for a long time. You tend to forget the mundane stuff, but you remember those really embarrassing things, as well as the really exciting memories. So I kinda hypothesize that the initial trigger that eventually leads to infantilism is probably related to a strong emotion such as embarrassment/humiliation. I can’t tell you what ‘causes’ abdl, because there’s probably a unique event for each one of us, though it converges to similar endpoints. My own hypothesis is that abdl is caused by a number of events where diapers co-occur with fear, anxiety, humiliation, embarrassment, anger and/or strong criticism from a parent or elder, specifically during a sensitive age window (probably 6~8 years age). The sexual element of diapers would then probably be established because of the intimate nature of getting diapered by an elder. Though, even diapering yourself at that age can probably cause the same link. People are usually out of diapers by those ages, so they likely don’t develop abdl. Continued bedwetting (and therefore use of diapers) or similar stuff probably increases the likelihood of making the association.
I’m not sure if I like embarrassment. I do like the ‘thrill’ of talking about embarrassing things. It’s hype exciting, and it makes me look forward to something. Though, if the topic of abdl is already disclosed to a partner, it’d probably lose its embarrassment quickly?? My ultimate fantasy is that I’d like to be treated as a helpless baby… Sleep in a crib wearing nothing but a diaper, onesie and socks, with a paci in my mouth. My food for the whole day would be thick infant formula given through a baby bottle, and I have to use my diaper. My caregiver plays with me, makes me color a drawing and watch cartoons, and changes my diaper. Before sleep, there’s a ‘special’ diaper change where I’m allowed to come in my diaper, but afterwards I need to sleep in my crib with a paci in my mouth and a big shark plushie in my arms đź’ž. I can’t even imagine how it’d feel to release a whole day of sexual tension into a wet diaper. Best feeling ever?
The delightful fantasy that you painted is indeed enjoyable to imagine if there always remains some ‘safe’ embarrassment to overcome. Â Of course, boundaries need to be respected.
There could also be equal or more incredible allure with no embarrassment with the thrill of surrendering to being dependent and vulnerable.Â
I think this is just another way of saying what you did.
But it’s not a fantasy… It’s what I’d actually like to experience ^^. Is it that much to ask for? It seems innocent and cute, to me!! I’m not asking for anything outlandish, I think???
I think the desire to live your (our) fantasy is a necessary part of finding happiness. Embrace it, let it thrive, & make it fit in your (our) world.
I think we are singing the same song. đź«
(PS. Don’t make your formula too thick, it will clog the nipple in your baby bottle. Of course, the hole can be enlarged…but not so big that your formula will dribble out if the bottle falls on the floor…or your crib mattress. 🤗)
Please, there’s no need to feel envy over me. That is not the kind of feeling that I’d want to give to anyone.
You are a real person, just like me. You have loving family and friends, and every one of your days is a time for new adventures where you can discover something new. Every day is a new day upon which you can meet a new friend, or even meet your partner for life. Take good care of yourself, and you will be able to start every day with tons of energy and motivation!!! You are loved
I have a few adult-sized baby pacifiers. Some of them were given to me by a friend @cofftee , which I’m really grateful for! I’m not so into my thumb.. just reminds me that my hands are those of an adult xD. Sometimes I sleep with a dummy in, though I’ve never been able to wake up with one still in my mouth, they tend to fall out during sleep.
I think I answered this Ask before? I’m not sure if something happened to the Ask. The answer is that yes I do use bottles and pacifiers. Here’s a picture of some of the ones that I have. This bottle got a little dirty from drinking tea from it. I think I scrubbed it clean later but there’s still some discoloration from it. I think babies shouldn’t drink tea from a bottle xD.Â
Thank you for the Ask! If I am ever able to purchase a home, and have a stable long-term job, I will probably look into the possibilities of having a room dedicated to my nursery. I have mentioned before, and others have remarked on it as well, that my bed and sleeping area is already a bit like a nursery, and if you think about it what really is a nursery? In my pictures I mostly show myself in my bed or in my bathroom, cus I think it’d be a bit boring to show myself in the kitchen or in the hallway.Â
If you’re able to decorate your sleeping area in a cute way with bright colors, with stuffies soft pillows and with other things that remind you of your youth, then is that not a nursery already? When people talk about adult baby nurseries, I guess what they’re talking about is more than what I’m suggesting here. They’re talking about an adult baby crib, and other AB furniture like a high chair, a playpen, soft carpeting or those rubber mats on the floor, nursery decorations on the wall, babyroom-themed curtains and a babyroom-themed lamp. That’s way more than what I have in my sleeping area.
I don’t know how far I would take it with the nursery. I’m usually happy with the bare minimum and even right now I’m fairly happy with my room and with how babyish it is. But I deserve something, right? I think if I were to have my “ABDL paradise”, I would definitely want to have a large crib that I can comfortably sleep in, I’d like to have cute babyish dresses and tights (and diapers of course), soft carpeting and toys to play with ^^. Probably I would like to be taken care of by a person, who treats me like a baby girl and who plays with me as if I’m a real baby, and who feeds me and changes my nappy. With all those things, I would have satisfied all my ABDL desires. This is what my bed would usually look like; with brightly colored bedsheets, my shark plushie, and (although it’s not shown in the picture) usually extra blankets and pillows. Also of course I’m diapered and out-of-my-mind melting away in my littlespace ^^
