I’m not sure if I understand your question correctly. Is there a limit to my fetish, at which point I’d shut down? You mean, if my partner would be more into abdl than me, would I tell them to take it slower?

If that’s the case… I’d love to do some of that abdl “playing” once in a while ^^, where my partner tells me to meet up but I must wear a diaper and a discrete onesie instead of a t-shirt… It’d be our little secret that I am a baby in a disguise. But maybe at some point it’d start feeling like bullying. I don’t want to wear a diaper 24/7, I don’t want to be humiliated publicly.

I’m not someone’s fetish. I’m a real person. That’s how everyone should see themselves. Respect yourself. If you can’t think straight because of horniness, give yourself an orgasm and then ask yourself again how much you value yourself and how much others value you.